The Power of Relationships
This week has been crazy. But rather than focus on the valleys and peaks which have concentrated themselves into the last seven days, I’d like to focus on three different relationship lessons I have learned from them.
Live a Life that Focuses on Strengths
I met a man this past week. Well, I met him virtually. In fact, he may be my new boss. He lives in Hawaii. And I live in Ireland. But those are all side points.
He has an incredible mind for business and relationships. There are some people you meet and you know fairly instantly that you could glean a lot from their lives. He is that sort of man. Through our few communications, via e-mail and Skype, and by reading my blogs – he was able to zero in on my strengths and weaknesses and offer me the opportunity to do some projects that directly played to my strengths and interests.
He had the eyes, not only to see my strengths, but to couple them with a need in his business.
This becomes a win-win situation. As he had the ability to see my strengths and play to them, it put me in a position to do what I love in a way that also benefits his business. And the fact that he was able to identify these strengths, and offer me the opportunity makes me only want to do my best work and provide him with the most value to his business.
It is my goal to live the same – to always look for the best in people and zero in on their strengths.
Those who know me personally know that my house was broken into this past week. I was pretty shaken and the guard (policeman) who came to my house was so nice. He stayed and chatted and made me laugh. It’s amazing the power of laughter. It lifted the stress and fear off of me and put me in a lighter mood.
He left. Or so I thought. I went on my computer and messaged a friend, relaying to her the crazy happenings of the night. All of a sudden there was a tap on my window.
I screamed bloody murder.
Seriously, I didn’t even know I was capable of sounding like that! I jumped off the couch and ran to the hall, completely terrified.
A strong knock on my door, and the authoritative – and insanely comforting – voice of the guard, calling my name and identifying himself. I’ve never met this man before, but the laughter we shared over my blood-curdling scream made him feel like a friend.
I still laugh to myself as I recall it.
There is power in laughter. It alleviates stress. It holds power to completely change a mood. It comforts. It helps you to focus on the good in life.
I have another friend like this. She makes me laugh all the time. She’s close enough to me that we have been friends through the good and the bad. She is probably the only person in the world who I can talk to, crying, my world falling apart- and never fail – she makes me laugh. And all of a sudden life isn’t so bad.
Love – and express that love!
I mentioned that this week was a mad one, and apparently it took its toll. In exhaustion, I set the kids up with a movie and lay down to take a nap. A few minutes later, I felt the sweetest kiss on my forehead. I opened my eyes to see my seven year old smiling down at me. She brushed my cheek with her hand, lovingly, and then skipped away.
There have been difficult times in my life of late, and there hasn’t really been anybody to wrap their arms around me and let me know everything will be ok. Oceans separate me from my family. Don’t get me wrong, I have amazing friends. But I have also discovered that sometimes, fighting battles alone isn’t a bad thing. It can push you to fight harder, to press towards your dreams and find a way through difficulties that one may not if there were an alternative.
Nevertheless, that sweet little kiss from my baby-girl somehow made the world okay.