Hello lovely readers of Naomi’s Blog!
I’m honoured to have been invited by my dear friend Naomi to provide some guest posts on this blog. Naomi is one of the most positive, intelligent and fun women I have ever had the pleasure to meet. Our writing styles will undoubtedly be different and I hope I can live up to her standards and your expectations. Naomi has already provided you with an introduction so I will just dive right in. This post will be on my views on how to attract positives experiences into your life by simply adjusting your attitude.
Faith vs. Creating Your Own Happiness
Most people have heard of the phrase “You make your own happiness.” and “You create your own reality.” etc. Until recently I was under the impression that it had a cynical connotation and that it demonstrated a lack of faith. It is a scary thought to think you have absolutely no control of what life will throw at you and that the experiences you have just occur at random. In the past I based my life plan on faith alone. I’m in no way a religious woman, but faith is something that I associate with being positive. Whether you believe in a deity, the power of the universe or Sponge Bob Square Pants. In the end it doesn’t matter. Perceiving luck as something mechanical that required a set on actions seemed unnatural to me.
New Year’s Eve 2014-2015
During New Years Eve 2014-2015 I had an interesting experience with made me rethink the way I look at creating your own happiness. Incidentally New Year’s eve was the anniversary of me and my boyfriend. We had been together for exactly one year and we took that as a cue to celebrate. We planned an evening with another couple in our favourite cocktail bar in Cork City, Ireland.
Now before I continue with this story I’m feeling the urge to digress a little. I was never the type to take anything as “a cue to celebrate”. Being the classic Type-A personality I always felt I was never “there”. When I would achieve a goal, my mind would already be processing the next step. Rarely was I present in the moment and acknowledging my own achievements and stopping to smell the roses was alien to me. This has caused me to miss out on many happy moments in my life. From graduating from my first law degree to getting a full scholarship, none of that was a cause for celebration. It has been a journey for me to learn how to relax and people who crossed my path played a significant role in showing me how it’s done.
Anyway, back to New Year’s Eve 2014. The couple had to cancel last minute and I was sitting on my bed, curling iron at the ready and I felt the night was now ruined. I wallowed in self-pity for a bit and had a lot of “woe is me” thoughts when I got my act together and made the deliberate decision to have a good evening. I’m in no way into the whole tree-hugging, socks and sandals lifestyle or attitude. But life has thought me that your approach to life does truly determine your experience.
One of the Best Nights of My Life
The night ended up being one of the best nights of my life. My boyfriend and I ended up having mojitos with the mayor and we then stuck to our original plan and went to our favourite cocktail bar. My boyfriend, being way more romantic than I will ever be, had planned to get the cocktail menu revised to include drinks such as “The Emerald Margarita” and “The Anniversary” as I surprise. Anything romantic makes me cringe even though I do appreciate it, such gestures always make me feel a bit embarrassed. When I ordered ‘the Anniversary’, I was presented with the full Moët experience: champagne, fresh strawberries and fancy glasses. It was a fantastic night.
Moral of the Story
If I had succumbed to my feelings of disappointment I would have missed out on New Year’s Eve, our 1 year anniversary together and I would have made everyone around me feel like rubbish. I like to be in control and when things don’t go according to plan I often don’t react the way I should. Relinquishing control is healthy and letting life run its natural course often brings amazing people and experiences into your life.
To make a long story short: you need to smile even when things don’t go your way, relax and watch what happens. You won’t regret it!