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What is it really like to be a single mom?

I remember the season in my life when I searched online to find what life would be like as a single mom. I remember the unparalleled pain. Needing that pain to end, not knowing how and being scared to death. I had three small children. I lived in a different country than my family, albeit on the same continent and within a ten hour drive. To leave would mean the end of life as I knew it. They say the monster you know is better than the monster you don’t. I searched the internet for stories of what it’s like to be a single mom. I wondered if I could do it. At the time, I resolved that no – that wasn’t the path I wanted for my life and fought to save and rebuild my broken marriage. I loved my husband. I loved my children and I wanted the best for them. And how could it be possible that a broken family was ‘the best’? Looking back, I know I tried. I gave my …

Love, Laughter and Parenting

“Laugh as much as you breathe.  Love as much as you live” Recently my youngest child, who is 8, had a bit of a meltdown about something. I can’t even remember what it was – something completely insignificant and silly to my adult perspective but clearly her life’s destiny was destroyed by the fact that I said no. She stormed up the stairs, and I instinctively started laughing!   It struck me as so cute and funny that something so silly could cause such a reaction.   Perhaps I have horrified you in telling you I laughed when my child had a tantrum! Bad Mommy Alert! But laughter tends to diffuse the situation. She’s quite firey (I wonder where she could possibly get that trait), but there is always a smile and a giggle lurking right beneath the surface!   It’s something I love about my life with my kids. Laugher is always imminent. What struck me after this incident was the contrast in myself. When my oldest child was small and would have such meltdowns, I remember …