All posts filed under: Motivational

Bad day?

This post is more of a personal chat over a glass of wine than a formal blog post.  I woke up this morning and received some bad news.  Nothing major, yet it hit me where it hurts and sent me spinning.  I felt overwhelmed and like life is one step forward, two steps back.  Yesterday, I secured a contract that I really wanted and was feeling very happy about the success of my business.  I was telling a friend of mine how I can totally understand how certain high power women stay single.  I get such a buzz from my business.  When things go well, I get this high that parallels the thrill of falling in love – only it’s deeper because it’s rooted in something I created myself. Today, I got sucker-punched.  We all have those days though, don’t we?  My little bit of bad news skewed my entire life perspective.  Instead of feeling like I can do anything I set my mind to, (a sentiment I believe and ‘felt’ only yesterday) today I …

Girl Power

Lately I have been overwhelmed at all my girl friends.  I am lucky to know some incredibly amazing and inspiring people – and having amazing girl friends adds so much to your life.  Girls have a reputation for being bitchy and jealous and tearing each other down.  I’ve never had room for that. It’s funny though, I have met my share of girls like that.  When my marriage was falling apart I was in a really low place – I was working really hard to start a career after taking time to be with my kids so that I could support myself.  I was studying at night and emotionally I was in turmoil.  The day after I separated I was a mess, I went to do what I needed to do but didn’t look my normal put-together self.  I had a friend at the time who I considered to be quite close.  Throughout our friendship she had made little jabs about my appearance, putting me down but in a joking manner.  I had a few …

Happy New Year!

It’s hard to believe it’s 2016!  I’ve always loved the idea of a fresh start, and in reality, every moment holds the opportunity for a new beginning.  But there is something about the blank slate of a New Year. Who do you want to be?  Who are you?  And how does that person align with the person you want to be?  What interests do you have – have you pursued them?  What do you want to accomplish in life?  What’s holding you back? The irony about goals and dreams is that they evolve. Maybe this isn’t true for everybody, but it’s true for me.  Life is fluid and the most important thing is to move forward, in the direction of your passions and goals – those goals may change.  There’s a quote that says, ‘Go as far as you can see.  When you get there, you’ll see further’ It’s true.  The secret is in starting.  Discover, explore, live fully and keep going! One of my own personal aspirations for 2016 is to write more.  Some …

Take risks

The Irony of Success

Life is about taking risks. Anything worth anything costs something – and often not money. In order to love, you need to make yourself vulnerable to being hurt. In order to succeed, you need to put yourself out there to potentially fail. In order to succeed at anything, you must first be a beginner. In order to grow, you must acknowledge your weaknesses. These things can be hard to do. Nobody wants to be hurt – but we all want love. Nobody wants to fail – but we want to succeed. Nobody enjoys the awkward phase of being a beginner, and let’s face it – it isn’t easy to acknowledge that we are wrong, flawed, imperfect beings. It’s scary. People might reject us. But guess what? That is inevitable. If you follow your dreams, take risks, make yourself vulnerable… OR if you stay safe and live the way everybody expects you to – you are not going to please everybody all the time. Even if you never take a risk in your life, you will …

keep going in rough times

When bad things happen to good people

Recently, a friend whom I admire greatly shared with me some heartbreaking circumstances that she is facing. Truly heartbreaking. This is one of the most beautiful people you could ever meet – why is she facing such hardship? She doesn’t deserve this. The unanswerable question: Why do bad things happen to good people? The same day, I read the following by Hal Elrod, “I’ve been lucky enough to hit rock bottom twice in my life. Not once, but twice.” Once, he was hit by a drunk driver, severely injured and nearly died. Another time, he was $450,000 in debt and battling depression. He wrote how both situations pushed him forward. The irony of hardship is that it forces you to re-evaluate your life. It drives you to become better. It takes either desperation or inspiration to change. Sometimes the hard times in our lives allow us to step back and see from a perspective we wouldn’t have otherwise. But, I’m convinced, it’s not circumstances that change us. It’s mindset. Sometimes the circumstances serve us to …

Go as far as you can see

Be 1% better today than yesterday!

“And then it happened, after 12 years of hard work, I was an overnight success” I read this in Jay Samit’s book, Disrupt yourself, and loved it.   Life is incremental.  Hard work adds up, and pays off. Little by little, the actions you take and choices you make build upon each other, to equip you with skill, character, strength, intelligence, mastery – but none of these attributes come instantly. One small choice builds upon a myriad of other choices… but it starts with one. Several months ago, I watched the movie, Wild. In it, the main character, Cheryl, was going to hike the Pacific trail from California to Oregon.   1,100 miles! It’s a long journey, and such a journey seems impossible when you start out. So, she afforded herself the luxury of quitting whenever she didn’t want to go any further. That mental loophole was all she needed to actually start. The first day of her journey, she looked at the journey ahead and thought to herself “I’ll just do one day”. And she …

Don't let your dreams just be dreams

How to make your dreams come true

Dream The first step is dream. Play with ideas. Explore interests. Read books. Meet new people. I love the quote that says ‘You will be the same person in five years as you are today, except for the people you meet and the books you read”. This resonates with me, as books and people open your mind and introduce you to new ideas and ways of life. Don’t be afraid to try new things. “You can’t achieve dreams you don’t have”  – Jay Samit  Start It sounds simple, perhaps a bit cliché, but – just do it! Just start! When you embark on a new journey or set your hand to a new venture, you are going to be a beginner. You can’t learn everything you need to know through books, people or training – you have to just start. Take the jump. The unknown can be scary, but it is the only real way to attain mastery.  Keep Going Or fail. Failing isn’t bad. “Failing is trying something that doesn’t work. Failure is giving …