All posts filed under: Success

Bad day?

This post is more of a personal chat over a glass of wine than a formal blog post.  I woke up this morning and received some bad news.  Nothing major, yet it hit me where it hurts and sent me spinning.  I felt overwhelmed and like life is one step forward, two steps back.  Yesterday, I secured a contract that I really wanted and was feeling very happy about the success of my business.  I was telling a friend of mine how I can totally understand how certain high power women stay single.  I get such a buzz from my business.  When things go well, I get this high that parallels the thrill of falling in love – only it’s deeper because it’s rooted in something I created myself. Today, I got sucker-punched.  We all have those days though, don’t we?  My little bit of bad news skewed my entire life perspective.  Instead of feeling like I can do anything I set my mind to, (a sentiment I believe and ‘felt’ only yesterday) today I …

Girl Power

Lately I have been overwhelmed at all my girl friends.  I am lucky to know some incredibly amazing and inspiring people – and having amazing girl friends adds so much to your life.  Girls have a reputation for being bitchy and jealous and tearing each other down.  I’ve never had room for that. It’s funny though, I have met my share of girls like that.  When my marriage was falling apart I was in a really low place – I was working really hard to start a career after taking time to be with my kids so that I could support myself.  I was studying at night and emotionally I was in turmoil.  The day after I separated I was a mess, I went to do what I needed to do but didn’t look my normal put-together self.  I had a friend at the time who I considered to be quite close.  Throughout our friendship she had made little jabs about my appearance, putting me down but in a joking manner.  I had a few …

Hard Work, Hard Knocks and Luck

  “You seem to always have a lot of luck”   Somebody I have known for only seven months said this to me. Quick rundown of the last seven months – I separated from my husband (though we had been separated in the same house for over a year previously), became a single mom, had my house broken into, worked full time while studying at night to get my degree, worked hard to upskill and change the direction of my career, faced the challenge of an unknown future with my job contract ending, all the while living in Ireland, an ocean away from my family. Same story different perspective. I have discovered strength in myself that I didn’t know I had. I have done things I have never done before. I have followed my dreams and pursued my interests. I have created some amazing memories with my kids and shared quality time with them – exploring the beautiful island of Ireland, playing games, baking cookies, laughing. I have read some truly insightful and thought-provoking books. I …

Everything Happens For a Reason… Or Does It?

“Everything happens for a reason” Such simple, yet profound, encouraging (yet partially demotivating) words.  A phrase we have all heard.   Yet they stopped me in my tracks. My friend and I had been chatting about some recent happenings when she smiled her typical warm smile and said, “Everything happens for a reason.” I had always believed that.  But this particular day, it struck me – I don’t actually believe that anymore.   SOME THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON Without question, some things happen for a reason that we simply aren’t able to see at the time.  It isn’t until we are a little further down the road that we can see how the pieces all fit together.  Life ran it’s mystical course and brought good out of a dark or bleak situation. BUT ALL? What about rape?  What about abuse?  Neglect?  Innocent children kidnapped from loving homes to experience unimaginable horrors?   Premature deaths? These can all seem far removed if they don’t touch our lives personally.  So… what about betrayal?  Shattered dreams?  Broken …

Starting is the Hard Part

Life is accumulative. Who we are today is a result of all the little choices we have made up until this date. Thankfully, life is fluid. Chances are you are not the same person today that you were 5 years ago. Sometimes change is subtle and almost invisibly incremental. Sometimes change is fast and thrust upon us by circumstance. Other times it is deliberate and painstaking. So, what happens when we survey our life, lay out our dreams and realise where we want to be does not line up with where we are? It calls for deliberate change. But knowledge, skills, and habits are accumulative. So, the question stands, where do we go from here? This week, as I was driving to college, I passed an overweight girl running. She was clearly giving 150% of herself. I felt like cheering her on from my window. Fitness is a natural part of my life now, and requires very little effort because it is something I love.   I miss it terribly if too much time passes without …

Inspiring People Who Reinvented Themselves

We all want to be better than we are – to reach our fullest potential.  Like the Whitney Houston song says “Give me one moment in time, when I’m more that I thought I could be” The rags to riches stories are so inspiring because they give us hope.  You don’t have to be down and out to want to be better. When you see people come from truly terrible situations and then break away from the mould to reach incredible success, it shows nothing is out of reach to those who are willing to work hard and push past the obstacles. Did you know that of the 100 richest people today, 73 of them are self made billionaires?  36 of those are children of poor parents, and some of them didn’t have wealthy parents OR a college degree!  http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/226514   I believe making such a drastic shift requires more than sheer hard work.  It requires a shift in ones thinking.  You have to be positive.  You have to know how to deal with the …

Creating a Cinderella Story

I have been thinking a lot lately about changing one’s life paradigm. How is it possible that somebody can grow up in a poor and broken, possibly even abusive, home and then grow to be successful and happy? I love the example of Oprah Winfrey, raised by a single teenage mom, abused sexually – and yet in her own biography she mentions nothing of these ills, starting her biography with her first career in radio. A simple point perhaps, but to me it speaks volumes about her way of thinking – she is forward-thinking and chooses to emphasize the positive rather than to dwell on past hurts that can’t be changed. They can’t be erased, but they don’t have the power to hold her back. Success is multi-faceted.  One’s way of thinking must expand in order to create a new normal. Oftentimes, when you meet a highly successful person, you know they are successful within moments, without knowing anything about them. Something about the way they carry themselves, their confidence, the way they dress, the …