All posts tagged: choices

The power of books

The Power of Books – and My Reading List

You can learn – and do – absolutely anything you set your mind to. You don’t have to know everything – just be passionate and willing to learn.  “You will be the same person five years from now as you are today, except for the books you read and the people you meet” There are no two factors that more strongly affect your life. There is another quote that says “You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with”. There may be seasons in your life, where you realize those five people may not be the type of people you would like to emulate, and the question arises “How do I meet such people?” The oxymoron is to become the type of person you want to be. You can’t instantly change the circumstances of your life, but you can instantly change your actions, reactions and how you spend your time.  Books shape you.  They change you at your core. Books are great for impacting your mind, as the more you …

keep going in rough times

When bad things happen to good people

Recently, a friend whom I admire greatly shared with me some heartbreaking circumstances that she is facing. Truly heartbreaking. This is one of the most beautiful people you could ever meet – why is she facing such hardship? She doesn’t deserve this. The unanswerable question: Why do bad things happen to good people? The same day, I read the following by Hal Elrod, “I’ve been lucky enough to hit rock bottom twice in my life. Not once, but twice.” Once, he was hit by a drunk driver, severely injured and nearly died. Another time, he was $450,000 in debt and battling depression. He wrote how both situations pushed him forward. The irony of hardship is that it forces you to re-evaluate your life. It drives you to become better. It takes either desperation or inspiration to change. Sometimes the hard times in our lives allow us to step back and see from a perspective we wouldn’t have otherwise. But, I’m convinced, it’s not circumstances that change us. It’s mindset. Sometimes the circumstances serve us to …

Everything Happens For a Reason… Or Does It?

“Everything happens for a reason” Such simple, yet profound, encouraging (yet partially demotivating) words.  A phrase we have all heard.   Yet they stopped me in my tracks. My friend and I had been chatting about some recent happenings when she smiled her typical warm smile and said, “Everything happens for a reason.” I had always believed that.  But this particular day, it struck me – I don’t actually believe that anymore.   SOME THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON Without question, some things happen for a reason that we simply aren’t able to see at the time.  It isn’t until we are a little further down the road that we can see how the pieces all fit together.  Life ran it’s mystical course and brought good out of a dark or bleak situation. BUT ALL? What about rape?  What about abuse?  Neglect?  Innocent children kidnapped from loving homes to experience unimaginable horrors?   Premature deaths? These can all seem far removed if they don’t touch our lives personally.  So… what about betrayal?  Shattered dreams?  Broken …