All posts tagged: life paradigms

flame of success

Success is how you run the race

I’m starting to realize success isn’t a destination.   For a long time I have equated success with achieving certain goals. Lately, I am realising success is a journey, moreso than a destination. Circumstances are second to attitude. We all face hard times. We all face setbacks. Success is the way we handle those setbacks. Do we let them hold us back? Do we choose to learn, even from our own failures? If we fall, and mess up, do we allow our failure to discourage us or do we take it as an opportunity to learn and grow and get back up? There are times when circumstances, people and maybe even our own minds, tell us we can’t do something.   The odds are against us. Yet, there is an inner flame that quietly flickers – “you can do it”. Success is choosing to feed that flame. Success when nobody believes in you I read an article about famous celebrities who were rejected. Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star and told he “lacked imagination …

Creating a Cinderella Story

I have been thinking a lot lately about changing one’s life paradigm. How is it possible that somebody can grow up in a poor and broken, possibly even abusive, home and then grow to be successful and happy? I love the example of Oprah Winfrey, raised by a single teenage mom, abused sexually – and yet in her own biography she mentions nothing of these ills, starting her biography with her first career in radio. A simple point perhaps, but to me it speaks volumes about her way of thinking – she is forward-thinking and chooses to emphasize the positive rather than to dwell on past hurts that can’t be changed. They can’t be erased, but they don’t have the power to hold her back. Success is multi-faceted.  One’s way of thinking must expand in order to create a new normal. Oftentimes, when you meet a highly successful person, you know they are successful within moments, without knowing anything about them. Something about the way they carry themselves, their confidence, the way they dress, the …